Dear Sarah,
My husband and I have been married for 9 years. Since our kids were born (we have twins who are 3), our sex life isn’t what it used to be and I think we are both a little bored. Recently he asked me if I would go to a bar downtown, wait for him to arrive, and then pretend like he’s a stranger trying to pick me up. I don’t mind doing this, but it makes me wonder what he has been up to and if he really wants to be with someone besides me. Should I go along with it?
Barfly in Baltimore
Dear Bored Barfly,
What do you think he might be up to? It sounds like he is asking directly for what he needs to help overcome his sexual boredom. Pickup fantasies are common, and can be a safe and effective way to generate sexual excitement. It’s really normal to fantasize about sex that’s not what you’re having, especially if you tend to repeat the same things over and over again with your partner. Even your favorite movie can only be watched so many times in a row before you need a subscription to Netflix. Give the pickup scenario a shot, and here’s hoping it livens things up!
SK
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