Dear Sarah,
I'm seeking help about how to accept an alternate lifestyle. As a young girl, I was repeatedly sexually abused and subsequently developed a fascination with diapers. As a teenager, I began associating wearing diapers with sexual arousal but I experienced a lot of guilt and shame about this. Now, I'm thirty-five and spend my private time becoming sexually aroused by wearing diapers and doing all the things a baby does. After I reach sexual gratification, the guilt and shame sets in. On one hand I love acting like a baby but on the other hand I hate doing it because of the guilt I feel afterward. How can I learn to accept my desires without feeling guilty?
Feeling Bad in Babyland
Dear Babygirl,
It sounds like you are experiencing something called paraphilic infantilism, a fetish in which sexual pleasure is derived from dressing and acting like a baby or toddler. There is not much research done on this particular fetish, perhaps because most Adult Babies (or ABs, as most prefer to be called) do not seek therapy, making it more difficult to collect data. Common characteristics among ABs include an intense desire to be loved, and a strong fear of rejection. The baby fantasies give them a feeling of safety and security they do not derive elsewhere. However, discussing the fantasies with a partner is a difficult task because they are afraid of ridicule.
As for your guilt, sexual turn-ons very widely from one person to the next. As long as you are a consenting adult engaging in a practice that does not harm anyone, please release your guilt and allow yourself these simple pleasures.
Take care,
SK
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