Kiss and Tell

Dear Sarah,

Do you think there are such things as good kissers and bad kissers, or merely compatible kissers and incompatible kissers?

Not Sure in Nashville

Dear Nashville,

Some people are obviously more compatible kissers than others from the get go.  However, I think you can speak up and ask directly for what you want or don’t want from a partner with regard to kissing (i.e. “I like feeling a little more/less of your tongue when we kiss.”), which may allow someone an escape from the “bad kisser” category.   This can be a sensitive subject, so be sure to frame your request in terms of what you want rather than on what the other person is doing wrong.

Take care,

Sarah

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